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SUE Speaks's avatar

A category you didn't cover is societal where our affluence has let us be so separate, in nuclear families with our own houses where community is so lacking. When co-housing came along from Denmark in the '60s, that looked like heaven. Families were together in their wings and the kitchen and outdoor areas were shared. Babysitting was not an issue and time was used more efficiently when you didn’t have to cook all the meals, plus being so connected with others made for a much more pleasurable experience of life.

Another thing you didn’t touch on was not getting married right out of school. I was Phi Beta Kappa, summa cum laude from NYU, but I became Mrs. Him. That was another generation so it’s not the same for women today, but still traveling the world, seeing what’s going on, collecting your own experience before you become a couple I think would be valuable for everyone.

Another thing you didn’t talk about was how what you did talk about should be taught. Thinking ahead like you did doesn’t occur to most people and how valuable your piece is to open people eyes to that. I loved it.

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Peter Clayborne's avatar

I love the underlying message here: that we do have agency in our lives, and that we can make a difference and a change.

So often it’s the reverse: either (valid imo) critiques of bootstrap mythology, or (invalid imo) condemnations of poverty as moral failure.

But actually if we flip the script like you’re doing, it becomes empowering: we can acknowledge the vastly different starting points our systems give us, while still distinguishing that from our ability to act, both within and outside them. Which means all of us, wealthy poor and btwn, have our futures open.

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